Best Tips for Dating a Man

Women take a lot of risks when dating a new man, both physically and emotionally. Although there is a wide range of safety tips women should follow when dating new men, there often is no way to avoid the emotional toll that dating can have. Psychologist Nancy Wesson advises women to shore up on their support from friends and therapists when setting out on the dating scene.

Be Patient

Although waiting for the right person can be long and tiresome, it often takes a while and a lot of energy to find the right dating partner. Dr. Wesson says dating is a matter of playing the numbers and often requires meeting or dating as many as 12 or 20 men before you find someone you’re comfortable with and makes a good date for you. Once you find him, take the time to get to know him properly, and don’t rush into a commitment. Don’t see each other more than once or twice a week for the first few months; that will give yourself enough time to see if you really want to continue getting closer.

Eat Well

Doctors at the Mayo Clinic report that what you eat on a date can affect the way the man thinks about you. Eating fast food is a turn-off for men and women alike in dating situations, so refrain from suggesting the drive-through to your date. You might prefer to eat at a casual place for dinner with your date, but understand that men believe they will make a better impression if they take you to an upscale restaurant, especially in the beginning of the courting. Let him take the lead in this choice so he can show off a bit. Men also like to see women eat food they consider to be romantic, such as pasta or seafood, and they are turned off by bad breath after eating, so stay away from the garlic.

Have Fun

Make it easy on yourself by suggesting activities you enjoy and that can easily lead to conversation-starters. Dining out is a common date-night activity, but consider other options to get to know the man. If you like culture, suggest a local art museum; if he balks, maybe you don’t want a second date. Consider dates that keep you occupied, such as sporting events, horseback riding or walking in a park to provide conversation-starters and prevent the nervous lapses that often accompany first dates.

About this Author

Linda Ray is an award-winning journalist who’s spent more than 20 years doing in-depth research and reporting on trends in health care and fitness for newspapers and magazines, including the “Greenville News,” “Success,” “Verve,” and “American City Business Journals.” In addition to sports and alternative therapies, Ray has extensive experience covering banking, commercial development and people. Ray has a bachelor’s degree in journalism.